I feel like this is a subject that isn’t talked about enough! Which is a shame considering around 30% of births are cesareans.
It can be so upsetting to have to have a c-section after labouring for days. I know plenty of women go into labour with the mindset that anything can change so they try not to have their heart set on anything. This was not me! I went in with my first baby sure I was going to have a natural drug free birth. Wellll, let me tell you, after 27 hours of labouring drug-free and 5.5 hours of pushing drug-free, I was pretty heartbroken when I found out my son would be born via c-section. To be honest I was totally crushed! I was so tired once he was finally born that I don’t even remember our first 6 hours together. I found it very depressing and I was determined to do it right the next time.
Once I finally went into labour with my second child, over a week late, I was pretty hopeful of a VBAC. I opted to go with midwives as they were much more supportive of helping me achieve the goal of a vaginal birth. My labour was so much shorter with my daughter, but again when pushing time came, her head was stuck. Let me tell you when they dinged the code bluebell, I didn’t even know what to worry about. My mind went through about a million thoughts all at once. Those thoughts came to a dead stop when a large nurse came into the room and got on top of my left side. She pushed down so hard I thought I might pass out, but a second later my beautiful baby girl was out. They immediately took her stats as she had been stuck but thankfully she was fine. It was one of the greatest moments of my life when they placed her on my chest and I will never forget that feeling.
Completely different than a c-section I was up an walking an hour later, and even peeing! This was a total breeze compared to a c-section after labour! I’m not trying to brag to all you mama’s who’ve had the horrible experience of a cesarean after labour, but a vaginal birth was A-MAZING.
Was it worth it?
Because it worked out, of course, it was! But I did find out that my pelvis is quite small, so it’s hard to have a baby vaginally. With my last birth, it was a c-section 6 weeks early, there really was no choice. If you don’t have an anatomical reason for a c-section, a VBAC is so worth a try! You have to find a medical professional who will support you though! If you don’t have someone supportive, it’s not happening. That’s my number one advice. Of course, I’m no medical expert. But from one mama to another, who’s dreaming of having a baby placed on her chest seconds after birth, it’s definitely worth looking around to different midwives and doctors.
Have you had a cesarean and want a VBAC? What are your biggest concerns and fears? Let me know below and ask any Q’s you have!