This year my first daughter, Designer Diva, will be turning ten. In just two short months I will have been raising her for ten years. It feels like we’ve been together for such a short time. When I say ten years it sounds like a long time, but when it comes to your children ten years passes far too quickly right!?
My Designer Diva is the middle of three kids. She’s been amazing since the day she was born. She slept 8 hours in the hospital the first night I had her!! Ya, she’s that kinda kid. Don’t worry I have difficult kids too haha. She never said no to us until the age of four. She’s patient, beautiful and kind. She sings while doing almost everything and she has a natural love for piano. Her friends are constantly fighting over her and she seems to be everyone’s best friend. I can’t seem to think of one negative thing about her right now. Isn’t that always how it works when you’re approaching a milestone with your kids?
So much has changed in ten years and so much more will change in the next ten. Being a makeup artist means both my girls are exposed to things I normally wouldn’t want them exposed too. I try so hard to make sure that they learn to appreciate their natural beauty first.
It’s such a hard world for girls, so these are ten things that I have tried to teach my Designer Diva by the age of ten.
Ten Things I Want My Daughter To Know
- Sometimes you will have no one to turn too and lean on, know that God is there and you can always rely on him. Trust in him and keep him first in your life.
- Boys can be mean, but girls can be worse. Make sure you’re always the type of girl who is kind to others, try to put yourself in their position before you open your mouth.
- You have a large black and white portrait of Audrey Hepburn in your bathroom. This is to remind you that her famous quote is so true, “The happiest girls are the prettiest”. Beauty has nothing to do with the skin you wear or the body you’re in. Beauty really does come from inside and your happiness shines through every day!
- It’s all too easy to compare yourself to others, especially as you approach puberty. I’ve always tried to teach you to be happy with yourself, the things you dislike are the things other girls like so learn to appreciate EVERY part of you.
- Keep talking to me. I’ve told you a thousand times and I’ll probably tell you a thousand more. We are best friends and mother and daughter and always will be. Don’t ever be afraid to tell me something, I will always talk things through with you. I don’t want us to turn into strangers like so many mothers and daughters do in the teen years, please keep trusting me.
- It’s okay to stop being friends with someone. I know that you are responsible, much more responsible than most girls your age. If you see someone close to you headed down the wrong path and you’ve tried to help, don’t go down that path with them. I know it can be hard to let a friendship slide, but it’s important to do what’s right even when it’s hard.
- Don’t be afraid to put yourself first sometimes. Putting yourself first and being selfish are two different things. You can meet your needs and still be humble and selfless. You have two special needs siblings, it’s okay to ask for time alone or even time away.
- Dad and I love you just as much as your brother and sister. You might get less time with us because fair doesn’t mean everyone gets the same thing. Fair means everyone gets what they need. If you ever feel you’re not getting that and we haven’t clued in, don’t be afraid to tell us how you feel.
- Good friends make everything easier. You and S have a beautiful friendship. She is loyal and loves you so much. Keep working on talking through your problems and don’t ever let another person come between you. Having the support of someone your own age who has the same goals as you is irreplaceable. Make sure to let her know how much you appreciate and love her.
- Continue to be yourself. I know you feel like most of the girls in your class act like teenagers when they’re still kids. I want you to enjoy your childhood you can never get it back. It’s okay to still play with dolls and use your imagination. Don’t ever change because you’re worried about people judging you. You wouldn’t be you without your silliness and constant chatting. Don’t try to be someone else it will only cause you pain, be proud of your qualities and keep letting them shine through. You are the best version of you.
I love you, darling, I wouldn’t have made it to this point without you.