Dear Beautiful & Amazing Women who have shared in my hysterectomy pain,
Yes, I had put this topic to bed. It’s an emotional and painful part of my life to discuss. I wrote about my hysterectomy in three recent posts, if you haven’t read them, find them here- Hysterectomy In Your 30’s Part I: An Agonizing End To Torment – Hysterectomy In Your 30’s Part II: These Scars Tell A Story Of Suffering – Hysterectomy In Your 30’s Part III: The Finality. I wrote these posts for myself. I was being selfish, sometimes Coins & Babble is just a place for me to scream at the world, and this was definitely one of those times. But, then you all decided to read my selfish writing. Not only did you read it, you connected with it.
You connected with me.
Some of you shared your amazing stories and told me how much reading mine helped you. To know that you weren’t alone in your feelings and in your situation in life. But this didn’t just support you, it supported me tremendously. Those of you who commented and shared your stories, here and on my social media accounts, brought tears to my eyes. I couldn’t help but feel a bond with each and every one of you. Some of you shared your stories privately with me, and many of you shared them publicly right here on Coins & Babble!
Many of you were headed for the same fate as me and were scared, anxious and nervous.
You, My Dear Readers
Katie, you are 27 and you were going for a hysterectomy due to Endometriosis, you just needed someone who had been through it. Kate, you and I are the same age and you had your hyster in October last year. Your sex life changed and your relationship with your husband suffered, you understood me, and I understood you too. I didn’t know what to say to help you, but I want you to know how much you helped me. Finding someone my age who had been through it and was suffering helped me to know that it was okay for me to feel the way I was feeling! Thank you to both of you.
Elbony, your 38 and just found out you had to have a full hyster because of Endo, thank you so much for sharing your story and for reading mine. Jenn, you honestly gave me the courage to push through. You did it! You were pain-free and on the other side living your life to the fullest!!! I love you for being positive and letting me know the possibilities. I have been pain-free, exercising, painting, playing with my kids, it’s wonderful. Thanks for helping me get there.
Kendra, Claudia and Hannah. Your stories broke my heart. You all had so much pain, not just physical. If I could change it I would. I relate to your suffering and my heart broke for each of you in a different way. Know that you are all strong and will make it through this.
Sentarra, you and me girl, we are type A’s. Letting go of control sucks, especially when it’s in your household. I hope everything went well for you. You were one of the first women who reached out to me, I will never forget the feeling I had when I read your comment. I felt completely unqualified to respond, I was stunned to know that someone else had the same struggles as me, big and small. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Vanessa I wrote a guest post for you on Endo and every time you’ve read my writing I’ve felt connected to you. You seemed older and wiser to me because you had already done what I had yet to do. You understood my feelings of less, you were the first one to understand them and I truly appreciate you for that. I will always feel a sisterhood with you.
Chevonne and Jamie. You’ve just stumbled across this post, you both felt the same feelings as me. I cried knowing that I had helped you, and I want you both to know how much you helped me in relating your stories to me. It does help to find other women going through the same thing and that’s what you did for me. <3.
To The Future
These posts have gained so much momentum. I never imagined they would help and touch so many women. I never thought in a million years that me sharing my raw experience would bring so many women together to support each other. To those of you who I didn’t mention, don’t think your stories didn’t help me, they did. Some of you messaged me privately and I will keep you that way. The most touching and supportive comments were left on Instagram and Facebook, and I thank each and every one of you who read and will read this. I am always open to questions so if you have any, reach out to me. I’m no expert, but I do know how you feel if you’re going through this. As you can see, so do hundreds of other women.
Thank you, I have so much appreciation and gratitude to all of you. I will never be able to explain how you have all supported me and helped me get through this. I truly don’t think I could’ve done it without you.
Two very special women I owe my recovery to, are Monica_SF and Paiges87. Monica your comments gave me hope and a vibe that carried me into being recovered. Paiges87 your story made me cry so many times. I read it over and over again and felt like my story accomplished something amazing. I could focus on the fact that besides my hyster giving me a better quality of life, it was helping women like you too. It had a greater purpose than just me.